Honesty, Writing, & Bright Futures.

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Fanueil Hall, Boston 2016

As a national contributing writer for Her Campus, I’ve had a lot of opportunities to write about various topics, trends in pop culture, and serious issues. This range of article assignments opened my eyes to different styles of writing but also helped me to recognize a common theme – the importance of honesty.

Honest writing is truly the best writing. It has taken me years to fully embrace this concept, as it’s scary to dig deep sometimes, but wow, was it worth it. Genuine writing derives from the ability to be honest with yourself. Whether it’s grappling with who you are or what you want out of life, the most important thing is to give yourself the opportunity to change.

My most recent article for Her Campus, titled “I Took Risks in My Love Life for One Week & Here’s What Happened”, was the most challenging yet rewarding piece I have written yet. I pushed the boundaries of my comfort zone, officially told the world I’m bisexual, and learned a lot about my self-worth in just one short week. An added bonus was the feedback I received from loved ones and strangers alike. It was heart-warming to have so many people reach out to me to share their stories or appreciation about my article.

I have now begun living my life as my authentic self. It’s a beautiful reality to wake up every single day and recognize how far I’ve come. This feeling came from being honest with myself, no matter how difficult and frustrating it was at times. Point is, I’m here and I’m so proud to say my future is even brighter than it was before.

Whether it’s in your writing or everyday life, be sure to stay true to who you are and be honest about what you deserve. It doesn’t have to be scary.

Cheers loves – to honesty & genuine people!

XOXO – Autumn

Below is a short clip from my national article, check it out!

“I bought an attractive stranger a drink.”

“I’ve seen this done in movies. The confident woman buys an attractive guy a drink, turning the tables on the standards of dating. I had to see for myself how this scenario would play out in real life. Naturally, I chose Thirsty Thursday to make my move. Sitting at a table with a few of my girlfriends, I scanned the bar for a potential prospect. This part of my night was funny, somewhat stressful, but overall entertaining knowing the power was in my hands.

As I was scanning the nearby tables, a tall blonde guy walked out of the bathroom and past my table. We locked eyes and he smiled ever so subtly. Without hesitation, I whispered to my friends, “I choose him.” I watched where he went to sit – a table with another guy and three girls. Crossing my fingers none of those ladies were his girlfriend, I asked my server to find out what he was drinking and buy him his next round. Apparently, his drink of choice was a watermelon margarita, go figure.

Margarita in hand, I watched my server walk over to his table and place it down. His friends began to laugh and his face lit up when she said, “the girl in a pink sweater bought this for you.” His reaction was everything I could have hoped for. I mean who wouldn’t be grinning over a free marg? Funnily enough, a server came over to me a few minutes later and handed me a black business card. It belonged to watermelon margarita guy. I was caught off guard but loving every second of this little charade. Soon enough he came over to the table to thank me for buying him a drink and introduce himself. The conversation was casual, I could tell he was nervous too. In his very distinct Boston accent, he ended the conversation by telling me I should text him. Mission accomplished.

I miss hearing stories about people meeting in person and going on incredible dates. And here I was, trying to make it happen for myself. No, I never ended up texting him, but his little black business card will be a reminder that even the smallest rewards can come from simply putting yourself out there.”

  • Article was written for Her Campus By: Autumn Dube

Fading into Fall

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I saw one of the last country concerts of the summer this past weekend and I think it’s safe to say fall is right around the corner.  This season of apple cider and pumpkin everything tends to bring up all kinds of feelings for people, especially when it comes to the heart.  The cooler weather and trendy activities (hellooo apple picking) can definitely make the idea of being in a couple more appealing.  Single vibes will be fading as quickly as the summer weather.

In the midst of all the changes it is important to hold onto the confidence that makes you who you are.  It may be easy to question yourself when you feel like your crush isn’t exactly into you, but you must not spend too much time wondering “why”.  This question will only drive you crazy and cause you to lose sight of yourself and that’s just no good.  Figuring out who you want to be with, or if you even want to be with anyone, is supposed to be fun.  Going on dates and getting to know new people is part of finding what makes you happy.  Traditional dates are less common these days due to our technologically driven generation, but that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to wait for one.

The whole dating cycle can be both frustrating and confusing at times.  This is exactly why you need to find happiness within yourself before you let someone else in.  What do you desire? What dreams are you currently striving towards?  Is he/she really worth it?

You should be too busy creating your own vibrant life to care what your crush thinks of it.  If someone is supposed to fit into your life, you will know soon enough based on their effort and interest in you.  You may not need a cuddle buddy for these upcoming seasons, but that doesn’t mean it wouldn’t be nice to enjoy another person’s company.  It is never a bad thing to follow your heart if you continue to love and respect yourself while doing so.

Find yourself, embrace all of your qualities, be happy, and let things unfold.  Also, definitely go apple picking.

XO – Autumn

“You know who the person is who is going to give you everything? Yourself.” – DVF